Love thy fellowman

I Would not love to pen this if given a choice. But I have to do it, at least to ventilate my views which could posibly dispel some notions in few minds. With 'Dostana' hitting the Indian screen, many flocking around making it instanious success. Any time you can sell sex on screen with minimum guarantee.. This time with a difference, certainly for it's own commercial reasons, I am sure many more will follow. But for multitudes who choose cinema the sole source of affordable entertainment how it will ensure their psychological health, there lies the question.



As the talks, writings and movies on homo flings are on the rise, the healthy friendship and affinity with a pal has taken a hard hitting. Need to think twice before laying your hand around him or her, or sharing the bed, or couch is really unfortunate.. There is a fair chance the vibes can wrongly be coded as homosexual instincts within ourselves with constant beating and trumpeting about it from the media. Why it is so much hyped? The attempts are being made to normalise it, and to some extent glorify it. But let us think a while before doing these kind of things. Are we sending wrong signals to youngsters who can generally be ticked with any kind of romantic fantasies. They tend to take fancyful erotic adventures, since they are in their prime productive years and are strongly driven by desire. The natural urge for a mate has a pupose in nature that is procreation. Any urge without a purpose of procreation is unnatural. That is how homosexuality has been branded as unnatural. Any hormonal imbalances in few may lead to dominating antithetical drives. But we can not identify 20 out of hundred to have harmonal imbalances. Animal world is not sighted with homosexual drive , occasional playful attmpts during growing period is attributed to their wrong identification. Long deprivations, non-availability of the opposite gender, fear of being caught, safety factor, abuse, and any one attempt due to the above factors repeated and continued with certain amount fear in mind about their ability to consummate with the opposite sex in future, are all the factors which drive many innocent minds to aberrations. Aberrations often trailed with social ostracism ( which can supposedly be dealt with legislation with so many doubts lurking around), severed family ties drive many youth to distress and silent trauma.But life need not be confined there, perpectuating a mistake. There is always a door open some where for a trapped person. He can be helped to get out of it, than cursed or glorified. Affluent societies always had ample time to mull over some fanciful adventures, perversions, and over indulgence. Unabated sexual explorations gave birth to incurable disease called "AIDs" and passed on to the world , to day making it necessary to pour of millions into into's cure and rehabilitation, and expose many to death either deliberately or innocently. Drug abuse, devouring their societies is thankfully limited to few segments in our society. Let us not be in haste to catchup with the west, with all its merits, had numerous pitfalls. "Brokeback Mountain" Kate Perre" I kissed a girl" are miles away from us. Talking about it's unsuitability in Indian context is not hypocracy. May be the homo is not so alien to any society, but every one need not run with playcards "I am in sync with it". It is not talking about culture, not talking of ethics, it is not talking about morals, it is talking about man and his existence. It is talking about his mental condition. It is talking about his future on this planet. It is talking about an young lad who is so much confused about his sexuality and pushed to the point of belief that he is "Bi" or "Heterosexual". It is about one being excessively obsessed of being at very high end fashion, very contemporary, and his preference to bohemien life style. There is always a thin line that differentiates healthy thinking and unhealthy thinking. An admiration towards a curvy feminine beauty or muscular masculinity of our own kind need not be decoded as arousal and sensuality.There is always a scope for appreciation and envy too. I advise reading of "Death in Venice " by Thomas Mann to have an idea of how a fanciful affliction can lead to self destruction.